Although as a mother I would hate to see anything bad happen to my children, I think I am most fearful of something happening to me so that I would not be there for my children. I know that probably sounds extremely self-centered in that I am the only one that can take care of them. But, really, I am their mother and who better to care for them than me?!
Anyway, this post is showing up today because yesterday, a cousin of mine passed away . . . leaving four young children behind.
For those of you who know me well, my family is a bit spread out so to speak. My dad left when I was two, and although I have stayed in contact with him, it has been quite a while since I have been close to any of the rest of his family - not due to problems . . . just the business of life with too much to do, too much distance to cover, "too many" families to try to visit. Anyway, it was the daughter of my biological dad's brother who died. Just within the last year she was diagnosed with leukemia -while pregnant with her fourth child.
What I have inserted below is the email I got from my dad's wife this morning with the news. (I had received a call yesterday afternoon that she was in a medical induced coma as the doctors were trying to fight the infection but it was not looking good.)
Your dad is going to call you today. Annie was taken off of life support at 7:00 last night and died at 7:10.
This is so terribly hard. She went into remission from the leukemia after her first chemo, and she only had one chemo left. She beat the cancer, but died from the effects of the treatment. She was, like you, a stay-at-home mom with four kids, one only a few months old. I just keep thinking it wasn’t her time to go.
One thing I have learned in the last few months is how important it is to tell your loved ones that you love them every time you see them or talk to them. The last time I saw Annie, I hugged her and told her I love her and that I was very proud of her. I didn’t get to say goodbye to her like I did Patty and Jerry, but at least I know that the last thing I said to her was that I love her.
As a side note, Patty (my dad's half-sister)and Jerry (his brother)also passed away this year- Patty in March, Jerry just last month. It has been a rough year for the family.
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4 comments:
I am so sad to hear of this loss! Loosing someone close in age and situations to one's own are hard to deal with, let alone adding to the fact that it's family.
My thoughts and prayers go out to your cousins family.
hugs and love,
xoxo
You have hit on one of my biggest fears as well!!!!! Even bigger is if both of us were to go at the same time. So much so that I can't even think about it too long or it becomes an overwhelming emotion. I just keep remembering that God has plans for us all way before we were born. I can't control that, but I think Donna has a great point. Ever since Dad went suddenly I try to not ever walk away mad, say I love you, and try to keep things in perspective. Thoughts and prayers to you and your family as they go through this difficult time. Love you all!!!!!
I'm sorry for the loss. I am also sorry that it brings to mind your biggest fear. You are a great mother & I truely do learn a lot from you.
oh my. this is so sad. thinking of you.
love,
nicole
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